Do they or don’t they?
The question always comes up...just how ‘available’ is a geisha? Could it be that despite all the talk of art, a geisha really is the world’s most expensive prostitute? Do they really auction their virginity to the highest bidder (as portrayed in Arthur Golden’s novel, Memoirs of a Geisha, and vehemently denied by Mineko Iwasaki author of the autobiographical Geisha, A Life?)
There is no simple answer. People want to know if sexual favors are part of the job of being a geisha. The best answer is they are and they aren’t. Geisha regularly have affairs with married men, and can form other sexual liaisons at their own discretion. They do not marry, but they often have children by a patron, or a lover.
That said, geisha are paid for their company, not for sex. They derive their actual livelihood from singing, dancing, and chatting with men at banquets. In order to polish their art, they devote much of their private time to lessons in traditional forms of music and dance. They must dress in kimono for work, although not always the full formal geisha costume. If a geisha accepts a man as her patron (danna) he is expected to shell out a large amount of money for the privilege of sponsoring her performances, wardrobe, and lifestyle.
There is no doubt that coerced sex and bidding on a new geisha’s virginity occurred in the period before WWII, the setting of Arthur Golden’s novel. After Japan lost the war, geisha dispersed and the profession was in shambles. When they regrouped during the Occupation and began to flourish in the 1960s during Japan’s postwar economic boom, the geisha world had changed. In modern Japan, girls are not sold into indentured service, nor are they coerced into sexual relations. Nowadays, a geisha’s sex life is her private affair.